Am I Gay - Are You Gay
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I found it very interesting to discover that one of the top search phrases on Google for gay related keywords is the phrase, “Am I gay?”
I am not the only person that owns a website who is aware of this. There are hundreds of gay quizzes out there. Most are just silly and just want your email address for marketing. I’ve ran across these quizzes before. You can find them anywhere, especially on personal pages like MySpace. I’ve always taken them lightly because usually it’s just another form of a joke being played on the reader.
You would think that a person would know if he is gay, straight or bisexual. The answer is pretty simple really. It’s the gender(s) you are attracted to. To put it more bluntly and since this site is geared towards gay males; it’s who makes your dick get hard. You either know you’re gay, know you’re not or somewhere in between. Simple as that.
However, since people are asking search engines if they are gay with the phrase, “Am I gay?” there must be some seriousness to it. Right? So I decided to implement my own experiment that should answer the question, “Are you gay?” Please note this is obviously for males only. Of course, if you are female and this totally repulses you then you may be a lesbian — duh!
See the photo above? Click it! You’ll be presented with a much a larger view in another window or tab that should just about fill your screen. Take a nice long look at the enlarged photo then come back here and leave a comment. Let us know what you thought or did after checking it out. In your comment also state your sexuality or whether you are still unsure.
If you are still not convinced whether you are straight or gay, I have one more for you. See the guy in the towel below. Click him! — NSFW! You will be taken to another site of mine where you will discover what is under the towel. Repeat the above and then leave your comment.
Can I get an AMEN?
damn it! following your directions made me hard. i guess that means i am gay.
Hi Lika,
Interesting piece!
I’m a firm believer in that no one is either 100% gay or 100% straight. The human mind and body is such a complicated beast that to label someone is one of two categories does us all a disservice.
Life is not black & white!
I’ve liked men since I entered puberty. I would fantasize about my fellow male classmate’s crotches as I walked the halls of Junior High. But, does this mean I can’t find a woman arousing?
Absolutely not.
One of my favorite porn videos of late is The Masseuse series starring Jenna Jameson. (I know, it’s kinda old but I don’t keep up with straight porn all *that* often.)
Massages are sexy,
They’re sensual.
A hot guy getting a massage is big fricken’ turn-on.
The fact that it’s being given by Jenna Jameson is actually a plus in my book.
The story line is compelling, and the actors are hot.
Gets me hard each and every time I see it.
But does this mean I’m any less gay than I am?
It forces us into the same mindset that straight guys are in whereby heaven forbid they acknowledge the sheer beauty of the hot guy standing before them lest someone might think they’re gay.
Yes, those two pics above were hot. I actually liked towel guy’s pic when he didn’t have his hand underneath his towel. Don’t ruin my imagination next time.
In any event, excellent piece!
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@Jere -
Sweet! glad it helped, lol. I’m not sure about HOCD but I think you’ve got a hand on GOCD (hehe) btw, you’re myspace link goes no where… was going to check it out but no such luck
@Michael Collins -
Hey Mike…
Sorry so long for the response. It’s been a crazy week. I wrote a post about it but decided against posting it here…lol.
“no one is either 100% gay or 100% straight”
I agree with you mostly about the 100% thought. Well… with the exception of one of my ex boyfriends. He had to run to the bathroom to puke while trying to make out with a girl as a teenager. Yeah, I know that’s gross but I believed him. The word pussy makes his stomach turn…lol. So I’m sure that he’s about as close to 100% gay as one can get in terms of gender attraction.
“I would fantasize about my fellow male classmate’s crotches”
OMG!!! Me too! There was this one guy I’ll never forget…OMG. It still turns me on to think of him (shh…. don’t tell Jake, lol) Nah, I’m kidding. Jake is totally cool about stuff like that.
On the straight videos…
We’ve talked about this before. And, yes I agree with you. I used to watch straight porn every chance I got. Especially when I was still in the closet and I found some of the girls hot too. Obviously I’m not repulsed by them, I was married for several years and have two kids. A woman can turn me on without any problems but usually she’d have to make the first move. So apparently I’m not 1000% gay, lol. But I can say if I’m with a guy that I’m attracted to there are no sexual reservations whatsoever. For me that’s what defines my homosexuality.
The money shots are there for a reason. Of course straight guys fantasize about it being them in place of the actor but the fact remains it’s another guy performing and the viewer is turned on. At one point in my life I even tried to convince myself that all guys were at least a little bit gay because of that reason. As I got older and more experienced and watched gay videos too I knew that it was also about the act, not just who the performers are. In straight videos I’m sure it’s the girl action that gets the guys turned on but for me it was more watching the male actor working his body and his climax at the end.
While I have found women attractive and have had sex with a few of them I have to be honest and admit that I’ve never actually masturbated while fantasizing even one. I’d be liar if I said the same about men.
To the straight person that happens across these comments. If you don’t understand homosexuality or possibly even fear it. This is for you too. The points that Mike and I bring here are excellent examples of how diverse we all really are. It’s nature — we don’t make this stuff up.
I passed, hard as a rock.
i wanted to peel his briefs off to see what was underneath, the thought got me hard
loved what was peeking out of the towel,don’t know wether i’m unsure or just frightened of admitting i may be gay but i know that gay porn is the only thing that gets me hard with the exception of my wife, yes i am married and even more confused than ever i’d love to be able to chat with someone about this.
shoobert101@gmail.com
haha, another A+ student! You deserve a reward, no?
@shoobert -
That’s always a nice thought
Thanks for sharing… Either way, you are who you are and sooner or later I’m sure you’ll come to terms with it. It can be frightening, it’s a certainly a common feeling with the social stigma attached to homosexuality. I’ll shoot you an email…
One thing I feel I should say right now is that I don’t think it’s a good idea to post your email addy in a comment on any website unless you don’t mind getting some hate mail. Let me know if you want or need it removed.
Hmm, I’m not sure if I passed. I liked what i saw, but I didn’t get hard.
BTW, I think I’m bi leaning towards teh males. I still like the ladies but in the end if I have a choice i would totally play with boys over girls, if you catch my meaning.
@Hwk -
We’ll say you passed… There’s nothing wrong with a little variety. In fact, I’ve been told it’s the spice of life. So there ya go
As far as the guy in the towel, I didn’t get an instant boner either. I prefer a little more life in a guy. For me, the guy in the jeans is a different story, so much is left to provoke thought. Makes me think of wanting to play with the boys. So yeah, I think I catch your meaning…
orientation-bi(with a leaning toward gay)
pictures didn’t do much for me. maybe their just not my type.
Failed on the first, passed on the second. I don’t think the first was really my type… XD
Orientation: 99% gay (with a bi-romantic tendency… it’s confusing, but in the end I prefer guys sooooo… yeah)
@Jon -
@JayK -
Thanks guys…
It’s really interesting to see what everyone has to say and how diverse we really all are. Keep the comments coming. I probably should have added a poll to this one for added interest. Maybe next time…
I found the first picture hot. I imagine trailing my hand down the belly and under the undies to get what’s underneath… now that gets me hard. The second picture not so much, though I did linger there a bit too.
I am married to a woman who identifies as queer–probably a 3 or 4 on the Kinsey scale. I’d say I’m just about a 2. We discuss our sexuality openly with one another and are, in theory only thus far, polyamorous.
Being highly sexed, I look at porn a fair bit. Most of it is of women. I’d like to get more pictures of men, but I find much of gay porn too graphic, active, and forceful. I liked the first picture because he’s perhaps more my type, but also because it is passive–he’s just lying there, exposing a little, leaving my imagination to work. I’d like to see more male nudes just posing (more sensual than overtly sexual?). I do enjoy some gay, ffm and mmf images and videos too, sometimes.
Interesting to read the various comments, too. So am I gay? No. Neither am I wholly straight.
I believe in 100% one way or the other. I am 100% gay and I have never pretended to be anything other than that. Women have never been attractive to me nor will they ever be, although they are my best friends in many cases. How can you not believe that?
I think most people that say they are bisexual are fooling themselves. It’s a cop out; you can seem to be halfway normal so it’s a lot safer to pretend like you are bi than to admit to being gay. There was a small study done by a University that backed this up. Look it up.
@alittlebi -
Great comment! Sounds to me like you are who you are and you’re comfortable with it. But I get the feeling you might be a little more gay than you’re willing to admit. I could be reading more into your comment than what you actually said. I do that sometimes, lol. But.. Am I right?
One thing I am really fascinated about is that your wife identifies as queer. You don’t have to answer but I’m curious to know how that works for both of you sexually. I assume you don’t mean she’s 100% lesbian. I mean if that were the case then how could she be attracted to you sexually (other than physical stimulation) unless there was another female involved. I’m probably getting too personal but honestly, it struck my curiosity
@John -
I agree some men fit the profile just as you say. I was one of them. After spending years in the closet I finally convinced myself I was bi. I was also married during those years and enjoyed sex with my wife. I’ll admit that any sexual experiences I’ve had with women were not physically initiated by me. I may have started it or suggested it but I always found some way to coax her into a physical activity just so I could get hard.
It wasn’t until I met a man I fell deeply in love with that I was finally willing to admit to myself and everyone else that I was gay. I even lied to him in the beginning telling him I was bisexual. Yet I always knew it was men that turned me on sexually.
My story is my own and that does not mean that I think everyone is 100% gay or straight. I just don’t buy that school of thought. Though I did lean towards that belief for a brief period when I first came out as a gay man. I thought since I identified as bisexual but was really gay then all the other bisexual men must be gay too and just afraid to admit it.
I didn’t realize how wrong I was until one day I walked in on a bi-buddy of mine wanking his fully erect hardon to an all girl video he was watching on his mac. I was convinced he was gay even though he once said he’d swear on his own mothers grave that he was sexually attracted to both sexes. I seriously thought my friend was still trying to partially hide his sexuality until the day I caught him in action.
The friend I’m speaking of was staying with my partner and me for two weeks while he was between apartments. We were supposed to be out for several more hours that day so he was unaware that we were coming home early. His bedroom door was ajar and I walked in to tell him we were back. It wasn’t like he knew we were going to walk in on him. The reason I only bring that up is because another person told me it was obvious he wanted to be caught just to prove to us he was bisexual, etc. But that wasn’t the case at all.
In my opinion, the only study worth studying is a man’s own mind. We’re all different, it’s as simple as that. When it comes to sexual orientation it’s who you are attracted to that turns you on sexually. For physical proof, a man’s dick is the only reference that really counts in the end. In other words, it’s whatever mental or visual stimuli that causes a man’s dick to become erect. I’m also not necessarily referring to the photos I have posted here, we’re all attracted to different types and some people aren’t turned on by photos at all. To them, it’s just not real enough. I leave out physical touch because most men can achieve an erection via physical stimulation no matter who’s doing it as long as they don’t block it mentally.
Anyway… Just my 25 cents (inflation, ya know).
@Michael Collins -
I own that movie. Love it. I agree wholeheartedly with you. I am female, but love both men and women. I respect us as a species, and that it is just human nature to be attracted to both. Why have one when you can have both? lol Love the pics, too.
hey, I stumbled here, and I’m a lesbian.
I got wet at the first one, and wetter at the second. I’ve been with men, and it does nothing for me, but the IDEA of it, turns me on… so I guess the above commenter’s idea of no 100% holds true. I love watching gay male porn, and the idea of men with each other is a big turn on, but me with men? not so much.
just presenting the other side of the coin… too many women are afraid to be lesbians nowadays…
took the test. i passed. i am at least 99% gay. i think my best girlfriend is sexy but that does not mean i want to f*ck her, ewww, yuck, gag! i am in love with lika. i would let him f*ck me anytime. he refuses to pm me
took the test, and passed. im definately GAY! all 3 pics where awsome! But i knew i was gay anyway.
I must say though that i prefered the guy with the towel (minus the peekshow) for the sinple fact that i ike men to be men and he is in a very masculine pose, standing there, grabbing himself… *drool*
But anyway you all make excellent points. We cannot bundle everyone into categories. we are who we are, and we fancy who we fancy. no-body knows why we each find different things and people appealing, we just do…
My partner does not identify as lesbian. She uses the word queer because queer to her simply means other than wholly straight. Our sex was very passionate the first few years together and, while we still enjoy each other sexually 15 years later, we have both been desiring the other side from time to time. Yet while she did have a same sex encounter once, I never have. I don’t know what an actual encounter might do in terms of my same-sex attraction. I’ve ever only fantasized.
In terms of personality, people have often thought I was more feminine, and some have thought I was gay. I don’t mind. The hard-on test, however, if I can put it that way, confirms a much quicker reaction to female nudity than male nudity. Yet I can easily get turned on by an attractive male. I think we are complex sexual beings–too complex, indeed, to fit everyone into one or another category. I think training, too, has much to do with it. For most of my early adulthood, I refused to admit any attraction to men, so I focused only on women.
We too easily try to divide everyone and everything into neat dichotomies–black/white, male/female, hetero/homo, good/bad, etc. I simply think we are sexual beings who can find a variety of sexual experiences pleasurable, even though some gravitate more towards one side than another.
@alittlebi -
Thank you. It seems I did read a little more into your previous comment. I agree that our sexuality is too complex to categorize into something absolute. That reminds me, a few months back I created a graph that illustrates sexual orientation from my point of view. I’ve never really liked labels that are gender specific so here’s what I came up with…
LOL, you’re such a flirt… a bold one too
Love you girl. That’s one hot comment!!! For some freaky reason I like when women, straight or lesbian, get turned on by two guys going at it. That’s HOT! Ok, now I’m scaring myself. I’ll shut up now, lol!
hehe, so true. I like that one too. But for me, I think my favorite has to be the top pic, all natural, not overly buffed out. Kind of like the sexy guy next door (hey, I’m not telling, lol). At full screen it’s almost life size as if you can reach right in and grab the guy’s… mmm…. (oh the thoughts that go through our minds.)
That is a neat graph, though I think Kinsey’s scale is easier to read ;). Even better–certainly more complex–is the Klein Sexual Orientation Grid (http://www.bisexual.org/kleingrid.html). I haven’t filled it out for myself, but I have read some of Klein’s work, as also the quarterly Journal of Bisexuality (http://www.bisexual.org/kleingrid.html) published by Haworth Press. Very interesting, engaging and important in breaking through needless barriers erected by elements within both the straight and gay communities.
Serious sexologists, it seems to me, tend to see much more complexity in human sexuality and rarely reinforce rigid and divisive dichotomies. I find, and I don’t mean to offend anyone here, that those claiming sexuality goes strictly one way or another tend to base their claims on personal subjectivity and/or simplistic science (i.e. Rieger’s arousal tests at Northwestern University that recently spawned headlines claiming bisexuality didn’t exist).
Sorry for my rather long and somewhat academic comments, but my stance is that if I feel attraction to (and can jerk off to) both attractive men and women, then I’m bisexual. Of course anything can be defined into and out of existence…
Same sentiment as a few of these comments…
Love the first shot - I dig the idea of temptation, and not giving everything away. Letting me use my imagination gives me a much bigger rush than a picture of a guy grabbing his cock. Generally speaking.
There are, of course, always exceptions..
Holy WOW!
I’m most certainly gay!
I think the guy in the first picture should cut his fingernails.
Yes, I am gay.
So, I think you stole my picture as I look similar to the guy in pic #1. I am gay and am in a relationship with a bisexual man. I was once in the bi-is-fake camp but not so much anymore.
I didn’t know that cute fuzzy bellies were popular - here in Upstate, NY they are not what’s “sexy” though I think I am more sexually adept than most of the guys around…
Love this whole discussion group for breaking down the categories…massages for lika for posting this!
@Johnny -
So… You don’t remember when we took that pic?
…I’m kidding.
But hey, if you think that guy reminds you of you then maybe you should send some pics my way
Seriously though, I’ve been thinking of doing interviews for quite some time. It might be cool to do a reader/profile/interview sort of thing if you’re up to it. That goes for anyone else too. It’s about time I try to get a little interaction going with this site. Who knows maybe someone will get famous from this lil’ ol’ blog.
LikaStarr @ yahoo (dot) com
I got repulsed. Gross. Guess im not gay, thanks! haha
i was actually confused because i want to do a straight gangbang. like 3 guys to a girl. or just a FMM. i really dont know why. Maybe just to see her get all so called “wholes” filled. Thanks again
@Michael -
You are welcome, LOL